It shouldn’t feel this hard to take care of a home—but it often does.
At MainTenacious, you will find-
No shame, no shoulds—just chores that restore.
You’re in the right place if….
If you’re an overwhelmed homeowner who’s tried lists, hacks, outsourcing, and avoidance—and still feel behind—this is for you. You want a home that feels like a refuge, not a burden. But time is tight, stress is high, and you’re not sure where to begin. You don’t need to become someone else. You just need a system that fits your life as it is now.
The problem
You think knowing how to do the task is the hard part. But the real hard part? Making yourself do it when you’re tired, uncertain, or exhausted. That’s why support matters.
My bet is that the real reason you’re struggling with home maintenance isn’t a lack of discipline, motivation, or know-how—it’s that you haven’t found a system designed for you. Most “solutions” assume you have lots of time, tools, money, or baseline knowledge. You’re offered one-size-fits-all chore lists when what you really need is a personalized plan that considers YOUR actual home, YOUR actual schedule, and YOUR actual energy levels.
And beneath all that? Misalignment. What you do each week doesn’t line up with what you need—a home that helps you rest, not revs your stress. That disconnect creates a steady drip of unease, and prevents you from really relaxing in your home.
AND…. most of us are bombarded with messages that tell us to ignore our needs and power through. We inherit messages about gendered household roles that really don’t make sense anymore. We absorb messages that say we are either lazy or a failure if your home isn’t photo-shoot ready—and at the same time, few are taught how to actually do it. This leads to guilt, procrastination, and the sense that you’re always behind.
What could be
That feeling that brought you here? It will continue. If you don’t make a real change, the overwhelm will keep compounding. Your home will keep demanding more while giving you less. But if you approach this with intentionality and support, your home can become a sanctuary. Not a project. Not a burden. A place where you can finally experience deep rest.
How to get there
What I think most people need isn’t just a better checklist. It’s a new relationship with their home. One where they:
- Align their values and priorities with their actions.
- Create space in their schedule, not just their closets.
- Learn what matters most for their home, and how to do it.
- Get ongoing support—from others, and from within.
- Give themselves permission to do what matters to them, and skip what doesn’t.
This is maintenance that honors your time, your brain, your budget, and your nervous system.
Our roadmap: How we get you from overwhelm to rhythm
This is the path we walk together at MainTenacious—a home maintenance course and community for real people, real homes, and real life.
Here’s the simple path I teach inside Main+Tenacious:
- Define your values. Decide what really matters in your home, your life, and your season—not what Instagram or your neighbor thinks should matter.
- Make space. That means literal time on your calendar, not just cleared-off countertops. You can’t be intentional without breathing room.
- Learn your home. Every house has its quirks. We teach you how to assess what needs attention, what can wait, and how to spot trouble early.
- Build your skills. You don’t need to know everything—you just need to know the next right step. We’ll show you how to use the tools and tackle each task at your pace.
- Get support. This isn’t meant to be a solo sport. Ask questions. Share wins. Lean on a community that gets it.
- Rest and reset. Maintenance without restoration is just another grind. You deserve a home that gives back.
There’s no one right way to care for a home—but there is a better way than crossing your fingers and waiting for something to break.
Whether you join my program or not, here’s what I believe every overwhelmed homeowner needs:
- A personalized plan. Not a list. A plan. One that fits your home, your season of life, and your actual schedule.
- Permission to focus. Not everything needs doing now. Learn to tell what can wait.
- Clear instructions. No assumptions, no condescension. Step-by-step, tool-by-tool, with options if you get stuck.
- Support. Not just cheerleading, but a community of people figuring it out together. Somewhere to ask, vent, or celebrate.
- A new relationship with your home. One where maintenance isn’t punishment, but a quiet investment in peace of mind.
And yes, also:
- The right tools.
- The right reminders.
- The occasional kick in the butt.
But mostly? A place to start.
A year with MainTenacious
Here’s what can happen when you stop trying to “catch up” and start building a rhythm that works:
Week 1: You have a plan. And for the first time, it doesn’t feel like punishment—it feels like breathing room.
Month 1: You’ve dodged a couple of expensive headaches just by doing a few quick inspections. The panic has started to settle.
Month 3: You’ve hit a few bumps (life happens), but you’re still going. A new rhythm is starting to take shape.
Month 6: You’ve done more maintenance in six months than you’ve done in the last six years—and it takes less time than you thought.
Month 9: Your home feels noticeably calmer. You feel calmer. You’re starting to enjoy these little wins. Maybe even look forward to some tasks.
Month 12: Your home supports your life. You know what matters, you know how to get it done, and you know how to ask for help when you need it. You’re no longer just keeping up—you’re leading.
What I believe
- Everyone—yes, everyone—can learn the basics of home maintenance. Age, gender, or IQ has nothing to do with it.
- There is no such thing as a “man’s chore” or “woman’s job.” Homes belong to everyone who lives in them.
- A chore list isn’t a strategy. A perfectly tidy house isn’t a goal. Peace of mind is.
- The hardest part isn’t knowing how—it’s making yourself do it. That’s why support matters.
- Maintenance shouldn’t be about martyrdom or performance. It should be about rhythm, respect, and rest.
- You get to decide what’s worth your time. Not your dad. Not your neighbor. Not Pinterest.
- Working with your hands can be meditative.
- Confidence grows with each “hey, I did that” moment.
- A home should support the life you want—not quietly sabotage it with guilt, breakdowns, or shame.
What it all comes down to
You want your home to feel calm, capable, and under control—but instead, it’s become a source of low-grade stress.
My hope for you is that home is a source of rest, not stress. A restorative, restful home that allows you to live your best life—the AC works when needed, the shower is perfectly heated, the pantry is safe from critters. I have found that this kind of home is possible if your approach to home maintenance honors your time, budget, values, and energy. It’s not about being perfect—it’s about being resourced. And that starts with finding a rhythm that fits.
What Might Surprise You
- You think knowing how to do the task is the hard part. The real hard part is making yourself do it.
- You don’t need to do everything on the list. You get to decide what’s worth your time—and what’s not.
- Wanting to hire it out doesn’t make you lazy. Wanting to learn it yourself doesn’t make you weird.
- Shame is not a maintenance strategy.
- Most people aren’t avoiding chores—they’re avoiding the fear of getting in over their head.
- The best tool in your toolbox might just be a supportive community.
- You’re allowed to rest before everything is done.
If this resonates…
Check out MainTenacious—an online course and community built for real people, real homes, and real life.
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We’ll help you turn “ugh, chores” into “oh hey, I did that.”
Because you don’t have to do everything. You just have to start with what matters.